Nicole Neudorfer Jablon, LCSW

This work found me long before I chose it as a career. In high school, I was working with children with special needs and it came naturally, but ultimately I felt that teaching wasn’t the path. Doing psychology research in college was insightful, but felt too impersonal. I found early childhood development was closer, but somewhere along the way it became clear that working solely with children was only scratching the surface. When I started to unpack different attachment and parenting styles with my clients I realized how much we are all products of our upbringing and environment and we carry that with us wherever we go.

I’m Nicole, and after earning my BA in Psychology from Syracuse University, I completed my MSW at Hunter College and post-graduate training at the Ackerman Institute for the Family. Learning family relational therapy is where everything started to come together for me. I learned how to pull apart intergenerational trauma, address attachment wounds, identify patterns, navigate complex conversations about privilege and racism, and understand how systems impact us all differently. Honoring that intersectionality and acknowledging all aspects of your personhood is and will always be an integral part of the work I do.

I’m a psychodynamic therapist who navigates both life and clinical work from a curious, mindful, anti-oppressive, and anti-racist stance. I am unapologetically neuro-affirming and provide a validating space for all LGBTQIA+ folks. We might focus on different parts of your identity at different times, but every part of you is welcome.

My specialization in perinatal mental health grew out of working in Labor & Delivery and NICUs and understanding how incredibly underserved mothers are.

Becoming a parent deepened that understanding. Even with a ton of knowledge and experience, motherhood has a way of exposing how much support is missing for women navigating that transition, especially those carrying complex trauma or processing a difficult upbringing.

Something that kept showing up in my work was how many parents were being diagnosed with some form of neurodiversity later in life as a direct result of their child’s diagnosis. They’d spend years masking, pouring enormous energy into appearing “normal” or typical, and it wasn’t until they watched their child get a diagnosis that something clicked for them. They started to learn something new about themselves that maybe they knew all along, but now finally have a name for. I absolutely love working with neurospicy folks – ASD, ADHD, AuDHD, learning differences – whether you’ve known since childhood or you’re just figuring it out now – welcome to the club!

My therapy style is collaborative and engaging.

It’s a back-and-forth conversation about what is and isn’t serving you. I believe that finding happiness and achieving peace isn’t the absence of conflict and stress. Instead, I think it’s developing the ability to cope with it through better knowing yourself. In our work together, we can stay in the present and be solution-focused, or go back and look at history and patterns, or both. And truthfully, I think humor and having a good laugh are incredibly healing too.

Along the way I ask for truthful feedback and I’ll check-in at the beginning and end of every session, especially when we’re just getting to know one another. I want to learn how to be fluent in YOU so I can make this process a meaningful experience. I’ll even read books you’re reading if it helps me understand your world better. After all, you should be the main character in your own life.